It is one of those quotes/sentences/sayings that seems to be logical, but somewhere deep down it does not feel right.
As a little girl, I grew up with the idea that I would study, get a good job, make some good money, find a good man and get married, then kids and bla bla bla.....The same story I believe everybody must have heard at least once in their lifetime. Most of these so-called supposed-stories or so-called facts created by hopes of our parents or our environment to condition us to think a certain way.
At a certain point of our life, this fairytale bubble will burst and reality shows that marriages are no guarantee for an everlasting relationship like we were told when we were still innocent and sweet.
How many weddings are held in a year and how many file for divorce within the next year? The figures are so depressing and the environment around us is not always helping. Who can say that they don't know someone who is cheating for their partner? Or couples who have stayed together for so long and break off just months after their wedding. When I hear those stories, I really wondered what went wrong that just a ring and a piece of paper can break the years these people shared.
And no, I am not anti-marriage and I actually believe I will get married eventually. But what I don't agree with the most of that saying, is that when two people come together, their idea should be to get married at the end. As if, if that's not the case, they should not even start. That might apply to arrange marriages, but in this era, where most have freedom of speech and right to choose, I believe people should stay together because it feels right and they choose to be with each other. If both like to seal this with a ring and a legal paper, that's great!
For me, marriage changed from a fairytale to a legal step, which will benefit the next generation. An oath that you make at that moment that everything you two are working for, will be for each other and to create a home for your kids. And that piece of paper and the ring should not change the way you guys were with each other already. You don't owe each other more than you already were: love, trust and honesty!
