Top 10 considerations

Last week, I went to a funeral of a far cousin of some sort. I knew him since the time he came to Suriname as a teenager. In recent years we did not meet each other, so when I heard that he left this world I was shocked since he was only 26 years old.

All this time, since the lack of contact I thought going to his funeral might not do me much. How wrong was I..... And I looked around in the room, and I wondered how many of those people really knew him. Were people crying for missing him or are people crying for the fact that he died so young?

Funerals are sad places to be at, but at the same time, it's a place where your eyes will be opened to some truth of this world. A place for people to think, even if it's only for that moment or the time frame they spent there, about their life and how they'd might to spend it wiser and better. After the ceremony they probably forgot all about it, but it will stay somewhere deep inside.

At that moment, I wondered why people are spending so much of their time on others and especially when the thoughts are about envy, jealousy and hate. Wouldn't we all have a much better life if we spend those extra minutes/ hours on our loved ones and friends or on ourselves.

I read a blog today about 50 things you don't want to regret. If you're interested in what's in the top 50, please click here. It's his list and there are things I'm not agreeing with, so I made up my own list. Just 10! I've learned that you should focus on what you should do and not what you should not do, so I made up a top 10 of things to consider in the order which comes in my mind first:

1. Travel more. See the world!! There is so much to see, so many people to meet and so many cultures to experience. I haven't been to many, but I can say that every one of them have their own charm.
2. Surrounding yourself with great, inspiring people. Everybody needs to get inspired sometimes.....
3. Have me-time. Take time off for yourself. I have female friends, who are complaining that they can't since they have kids. That's why you got married, isn't it? This is something that always makes me wonder, but I will elaborate that in another post.
4. Stop procrastinating. This is one thing I should remind myself more often. Sometimes it's just easier to lie on my couch doing nothing. I'll put it as no. 3's fault.
5.  Stand up for yourself. Too often I find myself in a discussion that had nothing to do with me. Partly I might come over as nosy, but on the other side, what would you do if you see someone, who clearly doesn't know how to come up for their own right?
6. Speak your mind. Others can't smell or hear your thoughts. This is one thing that avoids miscommunication.
7. I know I said no don't, but I had to put this. Don't assume! Since ASSUME means you are making an ASS out of U and ME. This happens so often and at times I also find myself in the same situation.
8. Put yourself first. It sounds so logical and yet every day people are putting others first. And we are even making excuses for others why they should come first. I love the way how author Keri Glassman put it in her book. Every airline tells you to put on your own oxygen masks first, why should you not in life?

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9. Have a hobby. Some are lucky to have their hobby as their job, but many of us are 'locked up' in a place, where we can't wait till it's time to go home. So when you're home, have something to look forward to, something you really like doing. You'll see how your days will light up.

10. Have your own top 10 things you want to do. Don't let others decide for you. I can point out these, but it might not work for you. Everybody has different preferences and needs, so maybe you're like the blog writer of the top 50 regrets and think that a threesome is a must-do. It's all good! You're the only one who knows your own desires. Paint your own path to your dream! So...what's in your top 10?